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Alex keeps pooping in her panties

She is totally aware she is doing it. She just plain out does not want to poop in the potty.

Recently, I asked her why she pooped in her panties. Her response:
"Danika poops in her panties."

"Just because Danika poops in her panties doesn't make it ok sweetheart. We don't poop in our panties. We only poop in the potty."

"But Danika poops in her panties."

"That's not good sweetie, that wasn't a good thing Danika did."

"But Danika's a good girl."

"Yes she is sweetheart, but it's not good to poop in your panties. We only poop in the potty."

"But Danika poops in her panties."

"Mommy doesn't poop in her panties. Mommy poops in the potty. All the school kids poop in the potty. The big girls poop in the potty. We only poop in the potty, not in our panties.

"BUT DANIKA POOPS IN HER PANTIES!"

I'm at a bit of a loss on where to go with this now. Also, I want to strangle Danika.

Comments

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phaedie
Oct. 21st, 2009 05:31 am (UTC)
This is all ammunition for you my friend.
She will be a teenager one day, until then I wish you luck. <3
sharya
Oct. 22nd, 2009 02:22 am (UTC)
Fortunately I have these words recorded on lj.
rpeate
Oct. 21st, 2009 12:25 pm (UTC)
Find something Danika does but your daughter does not. Then say, "Danika does X, but you don't. Why is that?" (Bonus points if it's something your daughter actively dislikes.)

When your daughter says, "Because I do Y," or "Because I don't like X," ask her how going poop is any different/try to make her see that she can do things differently from Danika.

Right now Claire likes peeing in the potty, but she has said, "No poop in the potty," in the tone of "Silly Daddy." I think there's a universal discomfort with pooping on potties vs. peeing.
sharya
Oct. 22nd, 2009 02:24 am (UTC)
That's a good approach. I'll try that next.

Today I learned that the past two days Danika has been pooping in the potty, so while she's on this "Danika" kick, I'll try to use her own argument against her (seeing as how she's got that one down pat :P )
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phaedie
Oct. 21st, 2009 05:32 pm (UTC)
lol :D
Thanks for my first laugh out loud moment of my day.
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sharya
Oct. 22nd, 2009 02:33 am (UTC)
I always thought that you two would probably really enjoy being on each others friends lists! She's funny. You should add her :P
sharya
Oct. 22nd, 2009 02:25 am (UTC)
LoL :P
bertine
Oct. 21st, 2009 01:28 pm (UTC)
I don't know if is acceptable or not but I know that some of my coworkers made their children wash out their underwear when they were going through a phase like that. I figure it was so the child would realize why using the potty was the preferred way.
sharya
Oct. 22nd, 2009 02:27 am (UTC)
I think you're right, but unfortunately at the age of 3, she would just see that as the funnest thing ever, and there would be poop and toilet water, and poopy hands everywhere. I think the lesson would be lost on her. Much more effective in an older child. Good idea though! Will file that one away for future use!
trinacutie
Oct. 21st, 2009 02:55 pm (UTC)
Is a diaper a threat at this point? I found the "act like a baby be treated like a baby" treatment worked. I now have 4 grown kids who don't poop in their panties.. and boxers.
sharya
Oct. 22nd, 2009 02:30 am (UTC)
This is the approach I instinctively went with. Unfortunately she's not as averse to wearing a diaper as I would have thought. Although it's possible that it's because she's wearing pull-ups, she's not seeing them as much different than panties.

How long did it take them to not poop in their panties? It seems like this potty thing is going on forever!
trinacutie
Oct. 22nd, 2009 02:42 am (UTC)
Seriously.. youre only a few weeks away from complete freedom. Believe girl.
gretchypoo
Oct. 22nd, 2009 01:00 am (UTC)
I'm gonna go with different advice than everyone else (except Trina) -

So long as she's not pooping in the potty, put her back in diapers. Not as a "I'm punishing you with diapers" thing but as a "Panties are not to poop in, so we'll go back to diapers until you're ready to use the toilet," thing.

I wouldn't force the whole thing, and I wouldn't try and trick her into it. Sometimes kids just refuse to poop in the toilet. I had a child squat down on the playground, pull her panties to the side, and poop on the floor. I know it's frustrating, but just try and remember, she's not the only one who's ever refused to do it in the potty... And eventually she'll figure it out.

Good luck!

sharya
Oct. 22nd, 2009 02:32 am (UTC)
Thanks for the advice. My daycare lady said something similar today. Since she tried to poop in the potty today, we're going to try to reward her by letting her wear panties tomorrow. Apparently all the kids are working hard at the potty thing, so maybe we'll have some success.
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