I went to my pilates class last night, and they decided to do a band class. A band class is where you do most of the excercises with a stretchy long piece of flat rubber... like a broken rubber band. The idea is that the band gives resistance, so it's a bit like a weight class. I don't usually mind these classes, although I prefer the classes where they use the excercise ball.
Well last night, they used the new bands... the ones with high resistance. I am so unbelievably sore today, it's not even funny. It's hard to type, and my arms feel like they're going to fall off and my hands are even shaking a bit.
I know my arms are the weakest of all my muscles, but man are they dying right now! And you know what sucks? Being in pain and not being able to take anything for it :/
Well last night, they used the new bands... the ones with high resistance. I am so unbelievably sore today, it's not even funny. It's hard to type, and my arms feel like they're going to fall off and my hands are even shaking a bit.
I know my arms are the weakest of all my muscles, but man are they dying right now! And you know what sucks? Being in pain and not being able to take anything for it :/
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and this is the good kind of pain you're supposed to enjoy instead of taking something for it. :)
You're right, I was bored at school and miss talking to her, that's all, didn't mean anything naughty by it. I deleted the second account already.
One thing I would like is this: she blocks me from seeing most of her entries, the ones that have to do with me would be included in these, and that's more than alright, I understand her reasons for this totally. What bothers me is this: seeing an entry she hasn't blocked me from seeing and reading something one of her 'friends' has posted about me without knowing anything at all about my side of the story. Considering the Hell my brain and the medication I'm currently on have been putting me and those around me through lately, I really don't need to read someone I don't know at all commenting on me and suggesting I made everything up. I have a very long road ahead of me before I'm well and seeing stuff like that is damaging to my already messed up emotions. So, I am asking that in the future, if her LJ friends are going to comment about things she has said about me in entries she has blocked me from seeing, but they post them in entries I CAN see... well, I really would appreciate it if that wouldn't happen anymore. So far it's only been one person that has done this but it still hurts. Sorry for bothering you or anyone else, but you have always seemed to be reasonable and I felt you might be able to assist me and pass on this request.
Thanks for your time, be well and have a good night.
Graham
Unfortunately (or perhaps fortunately, depending on how you look at it), no one person can control anyone else, or make them do (or not do) anything. Neither you, nor me, nor Phaedie, nor anyone else, can stop people from making fun of you or be mean to you. If you want to take it up with them, that's your prerogative, but I think it's unrealistic of you to expect that everyone (including those who don't know you), should be expressing supportive things to you, and shouldn't be posting things that indicate they disagree with you, in someone's private journal - a journal to which you're not privy and shouldn't even be reading.
That's the other thing, you say that you really don't need to be reading about someone you don't know commenting on you, so why are you reading it? Phaedie doesn't want you reading her lj, she doesn't want you in any part of her life, so how come you keep reading her journal? If you know it upsets you to read about her and not be a part of her life, then why are you doing it? It's certainly not respectful towards her or towards you :/
I don't think you have any right to ask her friends not to post things you don't like in her journal. It's not your journal Graham, it's hers, and if she has a problem with what people say there, she is more than capable of taking it up with them. The fact that she is choosing to agree with them, probably ought to tell you something. You have every right to ask people not to post things in your own journal, but unfortunately, unless it violates your privacy (in terms of name address, phone number etc), you have no right to dictate how others express their opinions, even when the way the opinions are expressed aren't particularly appropriate.
I wish you luck Graham, I hope you can try to bring yourself to get some emotional (as well as virtual) distance from Phae, because your obsession with her is bringing you both a lot of unneeded stress and grief. Try to have a better day.
Hey graham when you decide to kill yourself don't be a pussy and od on pills, be hardcore and take a hint from THE list!"
"NIGGA!!!
Back on subject tho, I noticed that graham dude dedicated a whole post to me. I feel so fucking honored to be talked about by some insecure low self esteemed pussy who gets so upset and mental over people who comment in his lj who "arent friends".
Make your comments public coward, it's just words on a screen!. And while youre at it, my names Andrew, so now you know my name. Want my address too?
I cant wait until the next time livejournal has a power failure and this tard threatens to kill himself because he cant blog about his shitty life!
Someone call the fucking Whaaaaaaaaaaaaaaambulance.
pwned."
Both of these are on PUBLIC entries, whether I look at them or not is irrelevant. OTHER people that know me can see them and pass on the information to me.
here's your quote from the LJ rules:
"1. Upload, post or otherwise transmit any content that is in LiveJournal.com's opinion to be unlawful, harmful, threatening, abusive, harassing, tortious, defamatory, vulgar, obscene, libelous, invasive to another's privacy (up to, but not excluding any address, email, phone number, or any other contact information with out the written consent of the owner of such information), hateful, or racially, ethnically or otherwise objectionable;
13. "Stalk" or otherwise harass another person or company;
If any user is reported to be in violation with the letter or spirit of these terms, LiveJournal.com retains the right to terminate such account at any time without further warning."
If she or anyone for that matter posts a PRIVATE or FRIEND'S ONLY entry, then that entry and all subsequent replies are NOT visible to anyone who is not on her friend's list.
Whereas, if an entry is PUBLIC then that entry and all replies to it are PUBLIC and can be seen by anyone.
It is my opinion that the comments on this PUBLIC entry by this Andrew person are, in fact; harmful, defamatory, abusive, threatening, harrassing & obscene... not to mention: hateful, ethically wrong & very objectionable to me.
Thank you again for being so honest & upfront with your input and assistance.
Graham
Actually Graham, unfortunately he's allowed to express his opinion that he thinks you're an "insecure low self-esteemed pussy." He's saying it in a place where you aren't welcome to be, and have no right to dictate what's said and what's not. If he'd said it in your lj, it might be a different story. Actually, your post that you made about him is probably closer to violating the TOS. However, since you have decided to engage in a flame war, lj abuse won't help you, or him.
His comment(s) aren't physically harmful (which is the standard they go by), in order for them to be defamatory they have to harm your reputation (you're the one responsible for your own reputation, not him since he hasn't told any lies, he's only expressed an opinion) and it has to be in a public forum (this is a private journal), whether or not it's abusive is questionable, because in order for it to be abusive it has to be something done TO you, and quite frankly, it was on an lj that you have no access to, it wasn't physically threatening, it's not harrassing because it's not your journal, and it wasn't obscene.
Essentially what he did is express that he thinks you're an idiot. An opinion to which he's entitled. If he was going on your lj and telling you repeatedly you're an idiot, that would be harrassment. Like when you tell someone to go away, and they keep coming back. You don't have the right to tell him not to post his opinion. You don't have to like it, but he has every right to express it. If Phae has a problem with him expressing his opinion on her lj, that's up to her to deal with. Phae's lj is not a community, it's her own personal journal, and people can talk to her however they want. He could have made the biggest post about you on his own personal website (not journal), and you still wouldn't have any ground to stand on there :/ He could probably go post about you on the AKA forum, and you wouldn't be able to do anything.
I know it's hard to listen to people make fun of you. It was hard for me too when I did things I later regretted. By responding to people's negative opinions though in such an inappropriate manner as the way that you did in your post, you'll just fuel them on.
Stop reading Phae's journal, then you won't have to see things you don't want to see. She doesn't want you there, and you've already said yourself that you don't want to read things that will hurt you. She's moved on and she's with someone else now. You can ONLY see things that will hurt you.
I have to agree with Shar tho, if you don't want to get upset with things you may not want to read, then duhhh. stop reading her journal. Noones forcing you to do so. You're stalking her dude.
I hope she doesn't own any rabbits. :(
I know where she lives and never hang around there.
I don't email her 1,000 times a day and I know her emails.
wow... I'm such a stalker, good thing they don't pay me for it, I'd be broke.
stop talking about me and replying to posts you know i am going to get an email telling me it's there.
it's simple, i don't want you talking about me anywhere i can see or hear about it, so stop.
and sharya, i apologize for these tools mucking up your journal, i was under the impression that you and I were done our converstaion and that would be that.
CRY BABY CRY!!! LET IT ALL OUT!!!!!
MAYBE LIFE IS JUST TOO CRUEL, GET OUT NOW WHILE YOU STILL CAN!!!!!!!!!!
the difference is I'm a tool that was invited.
don't you have something better to do than harrass me?
and no, i am not crying... you don't have the ability to make me cry.
once again sharya, sorry for mucking up your journal, if you delete my posts maybe these retards won't feel the need to reply and i won't be notified of it.
nothing would be in your inbox if you weren't an obsessed lunatic.
did I make you post? no.
Did I make you stalk? no.
You seem to disassociate the repercussions of your own free will...well what little you might have.
If it bothers you to be shit on then stay away from the people linked to the one that WANTS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU FOR INFINITY!
it's simple really, just say no.
this is my final word on this, please stop replying to these... i'm getting sick of hearing from you fools that have no idea what you are talking about.
i had a conversation with sharya, not you... and it was over.
I wish it was your final word, like really final. however I seriously doubt that.
Maybe you should go post a cry for help somewhere.
or just delete your account.
maybe call a suicide hot line OR NOT!
MAybe a low carb diet or non-dairy creamer.
private words are best for IMs, dont post publicly and then cry foul.
you are fair game fathead and I have plenty of ideas of what I'm talking about.