A very interesting public poll on friendship can be found here:
http://www.livejournal.com/users/phaedie/133326.html
The more voters, the more interesting the results, so please check it out!
http://www.livejournal.com/users/phaedie/133326.html
The more voters, the more interesting the results, so please check it out!
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I'll mention it to her as I'm sure she'd like comments from other non-friends for this post.
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I am very stingy with info people have given me. If I don't have explicit permission to tell someone it doesn't get said. This is true even of telling the person I'm in a relationship with. I've never bought the "Well I tell {insert SO name} everything!" argument. I think it's one thing to be completely honest with them about yourself but somebody else's secret isn't about you.
I think part of my attitude is that I'm a pretty private person. I'm very careful about who I share with. In turn if someone trusts me I take it as a responsibility to respect that trust.
Thanks for taking the time to offer up your point of view.
Now I have to, respectfully, critique your icon. The kitten doesn't bring down one plane? Not one? How real is that? I mean I have personally watched kittens bring down squadrons of moths. Radioactive Giant Kitten should at least be munching on a Sopwith Camel.
Just sayin'.
That's a very powerful sentence there. It gives a lot to think about. Well put!
It is so sad to say but as I was royally stabbed in the back last year by someone that I thought I could trust. Someone who, with her two daughters, lived in our home for 3 mos. - rent free. Holy crap, I can barely go into it ALL without getting all flushed and pissed off again...
Anyways, because of that situation, I don't think I would ever divulge my deepest secrets to anyone again. Sad. Also, resultant from that situation, my respect for other's secrets deepened immensely.
I'm so sorry you were betrayed in that way... I take it you're not still in contact with this person?
Seriously, I have never been that betrayed before in my entire life and the worse part is that my entire family had been basically hers since the day we met. I would pick up the girls from school every day to do homework and the like, my parents took both girls everywhere including Disney and the Keys, when holidays came around, her daughter was always included in gift giving. This on top of the room-mate thing. I know I spoke of her once but it was a while back. I'll see if I can find the link.
This doesn't even remotely cover it... I may have to make a post about it.
But it doesn't really say what happened that was the "event" that turned you guys against each other... or am I just blind?
While Mooch was living with us - actually during the last week - I accidentally mentioned all of this. She turned around and told the other person that yes, her husband was having an affair and that I had known about it. I cannot tell you why either. My feeling is that she knew her welcome in our home was wearing thin... I don't know. *The best part is that she and the other friend haven't talked since the day the other friend moved away. Real worth it all, huh?*
Now again, none of us knew this to be true...yet.
Turns out, it was true. By that time, we had lost a lot of friends as nobody gave Dave nor I the chance to speak. A very large circle of friends with whom we had spent almost every single weekend with over the previous two years was, in a second, disolved.
i'm unsure if i can change my default settings for comments after going friends only but your input is valid and appreciated none the less.
I think it was very big of you to bite the bullet for your daughter, I know too well how difficult and important that can be when parenting.
It was a very interesting question.
Thank you. It was very hard but the girl's friendship is too important for me to have not done anything differently. This is by far a tough part of parenting...